I’m here to let you in on a little secret… blogging is really hard. I’m not one to complain about blogging because I really enjoy it! I love planning new outfits, coming up with new posts, meeting new people, and just creating something from nothing. But with having a full time 9-5 job, trying to have a social life, and time enough to sleep… it can be hard! I always make time for it every week, however, because it’s my time to be creative, and I need this time for myself. As someone who was in a creative field for so long (if ya didn’t know… I have my degree in Trombone Performance, and music has been an integral part of my life for over a decade!) I know that being creative is an absolute necessity in my life. I used to spend 5-6 hours a day practicing and honing my art… all done in an extremely competitive environment.

From this I noticed I tend to have a personality that’s really encouraging and supportive of other people, but I sometimes struggle with treating myself like this. Too many times it’s easy to compare yourself, or hold yourself to way too high of standards. I’m a serial compare-er. If there was an award for comparing yourself to others the most, I might win the Gold… make that Platinum. I will compare myself to anyone and everyone, and it’s something that I try to actively work at all the time because I find myself doing it with literally anything. I’ve been listening to Amy Poehler’s book, Yes Please (Yes, I know I’m super late to the game here), and she stated this that really spoke to me, “Either way, we both agree that ambivalence is a key to success. I will say it again. Ambivalence is key. You have to care about your work but not the result. You have to care about how good you and how good you feel, but now about how good people think you are or how good people think you look. I realize this is extremely difficult. I am not saying I am particularly good at it. I’m like you. Or maybe you’re better at this and I am. You will never climb Career Mountain and get to the top and shout, ‘I made it!’ You will rarely feel done or complete or even successful.” ― Amy Poehler, Yes Please 

I always remind myself of this, to not get stuck in the end result, and to focus on the present, and everything I’ve accomplished so far! During these moments of self doubt, fear of not achieving my dreams, negative self talk, thinking I’m a failure, or  that everyone and everything is better than me, and I will never reach ‘career mountain’, I remember this. I remember that you have to be in the now, you have to congratulate yourself on every.fucking.accomplishment. Because at the end of the day, I guarantee that you’re growing and chasing those damn dreams (and I promise that your dreams are 100% achievable because 99% of the time, you’re the one holding yourself back)! You’re doin it girl! And you can do it again! It’s your dreams, your life, now you get to make what you want of it.  

When I’m feeling like this, I always try to dress the part. I want to look and feel my best physically and emotionally, and from this I’m typically attracted towards empowering colors and silhouettes. It’s kind of crazy when I think about how I really do wear my emotions on my (thrifted) sleeves. Red is a color I can’t get enough of right now. It’s a color that makes me feel sexy, bold, confident, and empowered. It’s a color that catches people’s attention, and stands out. It’s a take no shit kinda color! As I’ve mentioned, bright colors are what I call a basic in my closet. This bright red, linen button down I scored at the thrift store recently for about $4. Its’ over-sized fit makes it perfect for throwing on over a swim suit, wearing open over a dress, or tying it up for a peek of skin. These basic sailor cut pants I got during one of Anthropologie’s recent sales, and they’re just one of those items that when you look at yourself you think, “Damn, you look good girl!”. The cut is flattering, and another great basic I’ve added to my closet. I thrift basically my entire wardrobe, but because I can save money on thrifted items, I have more money to save up for higher end pieces like these pants or maybe have that second cosmopolitan 😉

So all of that to basically say:

  1. Stay true to yourself
  2. Be in the now, and be proud of where and who you are and what you’re creating
  3. Try not to compare yourself to others too much. Remember, others are probably comparing themselves to you!
  4. Dress to be confident… it’s the best thing you can wear!

2 thoughts on “Empowe(red)

  1. Hi Taylor, big fan. Your beauty, grace, eloquence and encouragement are contagious!! Thank you for your thoughts and photos!

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